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2026 62
- no treats, only tricks this halloween
- ask me something
- it's just a bad day, not a bad life
- to love makes one...
- denial is a river in egypt
- the way they used to feel
- who wants to go home, anyway?
- home stretch
- the ships of theseus
- a very chinese time in my life
- kunming (昆明) in photos, day 0
- vagabond blues
- the joy of finding out
- attending the rain
- new beginnings
- party time
- male living spaces
- "the sublime" by steve scafidi
- julieta venegas en vivo
- writers are always selling somebody out
- the jersey shore
- a room of one's own
- the apartment hunt
- a hazy day in greenpoint
- indonesian food bazaar
- i went to the world cup and all i got was my umbrella taken away
- it's going to be different
- the longest days are accompanied by the longest nights
- in the knick of time
- three thousand calories before noon
- ⭐️ so long, spotify
- the season i love
- the paradox of choice
- sundays are for soccer
- the colbert questionert (farewell, stephen)
- 眼保健操 and love as a cheat code for meaning
- trying to imagine sisyphus happy
- other blogs my readers like
- home is where i want to be
- peeling garlic
- two poems: wright, rilke
- all the living in a weekend (dc/dmv recap)
- everything looks a little far away to me
- a week spent horizontally
- hating on AI writing
- the walls are closing in
- "tomorrow" by bernadette mayer
- posts in the sand
- the exquisite pleasure of being back home
- cdmx day 6: coyoacán
- cdmx day 4: las grutas tolantongo
- cdmx days 2-3: pirámides de teotihuacán
- qué bien que hablas español (cdmx day 1)
- clearing the drain
- chores day (i hate my poems)
- why there are so few classics on the goodreads top 100
- trying to rid myself of material desires
- all winter in a day
- a snowstorm of unprecedented proportions
- ⭐ see you space cowboy ...
- the emperor's new clothes
- an operatic weekend (or: why you should go the opera)
2025 126
- sensitive to life
- "love poem" by tishani doshi
- first snow
- sweet november
- dyker heights christmas lights
- revisiting old hobbies
- fighting the acquisition of Things
- avoiding AI slop
- a weekend on the fields
- the new york halloween parade
- answering some questions about hobbies
- there’s a first time for everything
- "the world" by hua xi
- half-assing my civic duty
- we write to taste life twice
- american pie
- tidying up
- the first day of fall
- shanghai in photos, day 5
- shanghai in photos, day 4
- shanghai in photos, day 3
- shanghai in photos, day 2
- shanghai in photos, day 1
- singapore in photos, day 4
- singapore in photos, day 3
- singapore in photos, day 2
- singapore in photos, day 1
- to the doghouse
- watching the little theater of hours
- some meals from august
- choosing to walk (away from AI)
- back in my day
- i'll be bad at everything
- queens night market, staten island
- in the tangents
- what goes up...
- crossing the potomac (dc recap)
- when that moment arrives
- a walk in the hursts
- how i feel about dining out (abuqir seafood, levant)
- hot people read poetry
- o jogo bonito (the beautiful game)
- ⭐️ música para abrir el cielo
- time is wet / dive in old fish
- pre-fourth festivities
- ten million fireflies
- strawberry shortcake cupcakes (not a recipe)
- forgetting everything
- (not so) excellent sheep
- the first days of summer
- ⭐️ i want to hear from you! (misu readership survey)
- recovering from ktv
- clippings from mary ruefle's "madness, rack, and honey"
- the other chinatown (adventurers and scholars)
- listlessness
- "send flowers" by hua xi
- the workversary (1)
- india square (journal sq, hoboken)
- questioning the dedication
- "waiting" by hua xi
- memory day
- courting boredom
- randall's island, rfk bridge
- maycember
- you [might not] have a better time if you just stay at home
- "rookie" by caroline bird
- "autobiography" by jen levitt
- the incorrigible optimist
- "what the living do" by marie howe
- on the cusp
- i pretend i do not see it
- no hace falta tan poco
- back so soon?
- what are we even doing here? (forest hills, murray hill)
- the first days of spring
- cannery row (monterey)
- "cryptography" by anne farnsworth
- weary of listening to the nonsense (carmel)
- lost causes
- i’ll look for you in san francisco
- california, i’m coming home
- april showers
- the promised land
- a day of detours (moma, nypl, elmhurst food crawl)
- crave sourdough (clinton hill)
- go skateboarding (chinatown food crawl)
- sunset blvd
- leif ove andsnes @ carnegie hall
- expecting rain
- hello and goodbye, audiobooks
- nobuyuki tsujii @ carnegie hall
- foggy day
- hip-hopping out of my comfort zone
- the guggenheim + albertine
- a man with no alibi
- you better get back, honky cat
- ⭐️ killing the group chat (again)
- where have you been, my blue-skied sun
- quick, make a wish / a shooting star
- please do not die now
- call her green (a day in ridgewood)
- conditional friendships
- eggland's best
- signs of life
- steaming from inside out
- the first proper snowfall
- i'll be wrong about everything
- (following the) blood on the tracks
- everything ate everything else with a furious exuberance
- work therapy
- what we talk about when we talk about love
- a night at the opera
- learning english as a 1.5st language (re: lili)
- look how far we've come (500 posts later)
- the bear blog question challenge
- for time is the longest distance between two places
- the gods wait to delight in you
- love is believing in their reality
- tomorrow is a long time
- please come again soon
- listening to disappointment
- dark winter days
- a bird without a nest
- ⭐️ i want; i hate that i do (the crane wife)
- ⭐️ seeking happyness in the pursuit
- receding treelines
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- 24 notes for the year
- '24 reading year in review
- a complete unknown
- my heart has joined the thousand (dear N)
- every love story is a ghost story
- more to life
- home for the holidays
- looking into the lost forgotten years
- it was warm food on a cold day
- returning to the land of the well
- ⭐️ toeing the edges of my comfort zone
- "greenland" by kyle seamus brosnihan
- "coming home" by mary oliver
- "from one stranger to another" by kyle seamus brosnihan
- somebody said dignity was the first to leave
- "tomorrow is a place" by sanna wani
- back to december
- the absurdity of the asian potluck
- lying to myself
- you have decided being scared is caused mostly by thinking
- "wild geese" by mary oliver
- great migrations
- if you give a misu a cookie (or ten)
- in every language there is a word for it
- tempting the street food gods
- ⭐️ shop like an artist
- how fragile, we bloom
- ⭐️ if this isn't nice, i don't know what is
- "the more loving one" by w. h. auden
- "for the children" by gary snyder
- "everything" by sharon olds
- stay the course
- se acercan tiempos oscuros (el finde)
- reclaiming things for myself
- not because i should
- the pangs of your sadness will pass as your senses will rise
- so which is the lie? silence or time?
- brownies à la mode
- life's little apologies
- dissociating scaries
- i hope happiness is always in all your corners
- the eighth letter (rilke)
- take your kids to work day
- happiness economies and inner sanctums
- is the sky still blue?
- now that you’re away, i’ll just spend my life not knowing
- try stay longer
- of course we will hurt each other
- what about the plans we made?
- chicken noodle soup for the soul
- clippings from “against narrative”
- blood work
- “this is how writers fall in love”
- surcharge for bad taste
- wake up calls
- what they really enjoy is feeling proof against it
- the best mutz in hoboken
- yip yip (a:tla in concert)
- not on my lunch break
- timely!!
- the great jack-o'-lantern blaze
- twenty-four hours
- don't leave me, september
- walking the walk
- missed time
- there are many ways to change the world
- although of course you end up [not knowing] yourself
- strings pulling me this way and that
- what i'm grasping for is not a place, but a feeling
- will you miss me when i’m gone?
- coffee chats and donut dates
- oh, the towering feeling
- everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear
- the winds of change are blowing wild and free
- do you love something if you don't miss it when it's gone?
- i am happy when you are all happy
- mild case of the sunday scaries
- incroyable!
- there is no secret
- clippings from east of eden (part 3 - chapter 24)
- cuando el pobre lava, llueve
- (now a) shakshuka purveyor
- ignorance is bliss
- the strip mall of your dreams
- be first a good animal
- it was loud yet quiet
- dreaming of a low country boil
- do not fear the scales (400 posts!)
- writing my thinking
- suffering in imagination and reality
- little mermaid
- cauliflowers and other tiny beautiful things
- crossover events
- goodbye to all that
- ⭐️ i know love as a fading thing
- where wouldn’t we go to be no one and those people again?
- reacquainting myself with my first love
- en qué arrabal te me escondiste
- ¡qué palta!
- slapping watermelons
- clippings from bookbear express
- protecting my weekends
- do you remember when
- one month of work
- we the people, or something
- "go to the limits of your longing" by rainer maria rilke
- le cygne (prospect park)
- a night at the opera (outdoors)
- struggling with the scale
- letter “to nicholas hughes [undated 1986]”
- “love after love” by david walcott
- this love is strong, why do i feel weak?
- você quer jogar comigo?
- potted plant therapy
- waiting for the next event on my calendar to arrive
- roosevelt island (photos)
- settling in, and more vinyls
- on not knowing what to do in the city with everything
- and the voices in his head began to sing
- what you have now was once among the things you only hoped for
- reader request: my note-taking system
- sit still, look pretty
- there are weeks where decades happen
- counting my blessings
- so it begins (pick one)
- 2-5x happiness increases are possible (first day jitters)
- gantry plaza state park
- looking back over a lifetime, you see that love was the answer to everything
- great american scream machines (astoria park carnival)
- parecen viernes
- nothing nonnegotiable
- in my lame duck era (& when does the frog jump out of the pot?)
- who's afraid of a big bad word?
- gutting my wardrobe + clippings from cannery row
- 大连 photo dump
- 沈阳 photo dump (mostly 老北市)
- tokyo, day 3: roppongi, harajuku (again), lidabashi
- tokyo, day 2: asakusa, oshiage, shibuya, harajuku
- tokyo, day 0-1: ginza, tsukiji, ueno
- even the dustiest of streets has a place in memory
- re: the fear of audience expectations, by gabby
- not all who wander are lost
- skinny dipping with the elderly
- hard pills to swallow
- we don’t get to choose our memories
- the dust bowl
- a long uncomfortable look in the mirror
- the homecoming pauper
- flying back one hour and fourteen years
- sumimasening my way around
- the fragility of all we hold dear
- are we still playing soccer that sunny june afternoon?
- euphoria
- suffering because i fear
- a most lazy sunday
- there may be more beautiful times
- do you smell the smoke?
- the premortem
- because every day is all there is
- excerpt from "john wayne: a love song"
- the faces gone with the wind
- ésa es la vida que te tocó vivir
- a monkey in silk
- do it franticly (sic) / you will live
- the promises we leave behind (sf recap)
- death of a bachelorette
- the water is spangles off soft blue
- these are the days that must happen to you
- not everything is as it seems
- paid in blood
- sixty minutes to make life fair
- ¿será que estamos mal / y somos indefensos?
- bajo el cielo de kukulcan (cancún, day 3)
- cancún, day 2: playa del niño, palacio municipal
- "Mango" - La Lá (lyrics/letra en/es)
- si vivo cien años, cien años pienso en ti (cancún, day 1)
- cancún, day 0
- slumping my way into vacation
- attention, not time, is my love language
- practically running a dog hotel at this point
- my cup runneth over
- voir dire and jury duty
- branded on my feet
- re: things to think about when blogging
- if you give a mayfly a minute
- dreaming of saturn
- wild old dogs
- three hundred posts (!) + (more) kind reader advice
- damned if i do, damned if i don't
- on being a "no sabo" kid
- happyb rthday
- the unbearable fullness of being [a glutton]
- that funny feeling again
- love in the time of tinder
- life, liberty, and the pursuit of rush tickets
- nobody knows you when you're down and out
- (in which i get) free interview practice
- still believe in good days
- what if i hate who i'm becoming / and my young heart never runs free?
- actor-observer bias + "be a goldfish"
- sitting on dogs, again
- lasciate ogne speranza, voi ch'intrate
- feeling flat
- 30 day song challenge
- the last paycheck
- blank cards
- it turns out forks are fucking everywhere
- recalibrating my job hunt with helpful reader advice
- coding again, from the writer that doesn't write
- falling down the stairs
- what's important is seldom urgent
- you can't write a good story following a formula
- back to high school
- winter cravings + models overtrained on men/women
- hug your loved ones tighter for me
- on writing forever and being a good Bear citizen
- observations from two weeks of writing everyday
- in which i learn that dogwalking is harder than i anticipated
- re: playing at work, by sam wonders
- ⭐ what i wish someone had told me in high school
- hedging for happiness + a menu of joys
- ⭐️ what happens to a dream deferred?
- a writing tool + re: make them reject you
- never use a verb other than "said" to carry dialogue
- you will have a better life if you just stay home (or maybe not)
- saying goodbye to the holidays
- hotpot and imposter syndrome
- shooting blind
- don't miss more than a day in a row
- 40 questions to ask yourself every year, '23 ed.
- looking back at my blogging in '23
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- 荒唐的是我沒有辦法遺忘
- in search of lost time
- let us strive for the company of immortals
- there are no accidents
- who are you that i should have to lie?
- my '23 reading year in review
- losartan
- medicine's unwanted child
- hello linux, my old friend
- mint mobile, one month in
- pulp fiction
- to hell and back
- laissez les bons temps rouler
- i am not a mere event on your calendar
- the second life of third spaces
- ⭐️ winter things (on secret santa)
- spotify wrapped
- this is one way to dance
- just hand me down, give me a place to be
- some people like fruitcake, too
- the blog goes monochrome
- black friday
- the hurting kind
- metamorfosis, mi amor, metamorfosis
- playing football with my head for a change
- sometimes human beings have to just sit in one place and, like, hurt
- azelf, please
- writing slump and imposter syndrome
- a poem? for me?
- what's that ringing I hear in my ears?
- audentes fortuna iuvat
- things I will not miss about my last job: a running list
- burnout and black friday
- which roads have you taken to avoid your destiny?
- assorted snippets
- crafting the life i want to live
- wrestling with google photos, again
- some dimitrov poems, i think
- waiting for '24
- "the summer you learned to swim" by michael simms
- climbing the cantril ladder
- puerto rico in photos, october '23
- colanders of constellations
- lifting my leaden eyelids
- ⭐ hanging on in quiet desperation
- desolation row
- hater's anthem
- i wasn't born to lose you
- a very kind email i received
- eating the frog
- culling my inbox + my favorite email newsletters
- tell me, how do you spend that precious dollar of yours?
- how to check total wordcount across all files in a folder
- ⭐ looking back on 100k words
- this week has been, without a doubt, one of the weeks of my life
- ⭐ gracias, señora
- the sick get sicker
- sea u later, seattle ('23 sep)
- X. I want from love only the beginning
- my disappointment knows no bounds
- new car day
- sephora nights and early flights
- ⭐ i can't help it if i'm lucky
- hard rain
- on having the ball at my feet again
- communication is lossy by default
- honey and memory
- the fears are paper tigers
- trading in the dregs of my dignity
- "stone love" by louise erdrich
- the horrors persist, but so do i
- ⭐ vinyl records and the diderot effect
- love poems on chocolate bars
- no, i haven't gone to therapy yet (but i want to try)
- labor day '23 and restful time off
- reading as an escape
- hiding in plain sight
- sports with the elderly
- fighting autopilot
- "stationery" by agha shahid ali
- "mind and heart" by charles bukowski
- "in my next life let me be a tomato" by natasha rao
- "misty" by rosemerry wahtola trommer
- few places in this world are more dangerous than home
- home sweet home
- i used chatGPT for the first time
- moving out blues
- time is a jet plane, it moves too fast
- impromptu karaoke sessions
- ⭐ laundry day and errand hangs
- no more takis
- writing my memoirs
- a sad game of phone tag
- seeing stars and fighting back tears
- un bel dì, vedremo
- i faint in the worst of places
- motel blues
- lord of the (fruit) flies
- ⭐ pay it forward! (the miracle of the lost vinyl)
- i love you, richard parker
- coney island and khao mun gai
- some physical trauma to go with the emotional
- how do i help future Me?
- the best $12 i ever spent
- why i try to write in plaintext
- ⭐ why diversity matters
- "just take it one day at a time" (inertia for breakups)
- dealing with contempt
- pride weekend '23 in nyc
- let us weep
- moving on is hard + thank you notes
- grocery lists (nyc day 28)
- happy juneteenth (nyc day 27)
- yesterday was not a good day to fly (nyc day 23)
- i get too attached to material things
- ⭐ from boston with love
- Lenin and relationships
- orange skies (nyc day 21)
- every day we stray further from god's light... (nyc day 20)
- take care of yourself so you don't get sick like me (nyc day 18 & 19)
- ask away, my dear readers (nyc day 16 & 17)
- authority blinds + classical conditioning for friendships
- homesick and drowning in work (nyc day 15)
- journaling from bushwick inlet park (nyc day 14)
- how do you view your time?
- memorial day weekend in dc
- and somehow, a bad day to (maybe) top them all (nyc day 13)
- the city will test your resolve
- <rant> shame on CLEAR for dishonest, predatory sales tactics
- ⭐ working from the empire state building (nyc day 12)
- don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm (nyc day 11)
- rainy days in new york (nyc day 10)
- self-disclosing more when responding to "how are you?"
- "i am running into a new year" by lucille clifton
- i found a therapist! (nyc day 9)
- you can be sad and lonely, even in new york city (nyc day 8)
- first time at the laundromat (nyc day 7)
- "together and by ourselves" by alex dimitrov
- the L train gives me (more) trust issues (nyc day 6)
- stillness is in short supply here (nyc day 5)
- sundays are for trader joe's pilgrimages (nyc day 4)
- "august" by alex dimitrov
- let's get lost in new york (nyc days 1-3)
- "the years" by alex dimitrov
- "monday," by alex dimitrov
- "days and nights" by alex dimitrov
- "december" by alex dimitrov
- "in the exodus I love you more" by mahmoud darwish
- ⭐ the glass is already broken
- don't put up with people who are reckless with your heart
- 20 signs you're emotionally mature (notes from the school of life video)
- ⭐ the not-so-tough love of immigrant parents
- ⭐ 5 tips for comforting a heartbroken friend
- going through the 5 stages of grief
- ⭐ lessons from 100 (!) posts on bear
- "it's the season i often mistake" by ada limón
- email is (still) king
- everything i’ve ever let go of has claw marks on it
- saving earthworms
- ⭐ resisting instant gratification
- "the crunch" by charles bukowski (an excerpt from)
- the way i need you is a loneliness i cannot bear
- write hard and clear about what hurts
- you'll never have all the answers you seek
- grief comes in waves
- the taoist parable of the old man and his horse
- ⭐ who do i address blog posts to?
- on becoming desensitized to bigotry
- what does it mean to move on?
- what's the best beginner fountain pen?
- draw your material desires
- ⭐ hemingway on writing
- oh misery's mine
- maybe pain is just a lack of understanding
- "LSD" by alex dimitrov
- "winter solstice" by alex dimitrov
- "small kindnesses" by danusha laméris
- ⭐ you don't know what you've got till it's gone
- "the mower" by philip larkin
- santiago, chile in photos, august 2019
- "won't you celebrate with me" by lucille clifton
- ⭐ show the inside of your head in public
- ⭐ you don't have to fail with abandon
- ⭐ why i use cheap notebooks
- ⭐ showing love sometimes means shutting up
- ⭐ how i deal with "writer's block"
- the enshittification of everything
- covid-19 rebound and revisiting pokémon
- migrating passwords to keepassxc
- in praise of fickle fans
- doing my time with covid-19
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- goodhart's law, or the unintended consequences of your goals
- the types of videogames i like
- tom sachs: finding the inspiration of your inspiration
- warm december
- my spotify wrapped '22
- on making wishlists
- why i only use plain black wallpapers
- elon's 6 sigma rules for productivity
- van neistat's 12 rules of gifting
- thanksgiving postmortem
- what you give up for those sweet black friday savings
- questions to ask before making any purchase
- do you draft cards & letters before you write them?
- ⭐ curiosity is a curse
- nostalgia, ultra
- drive with a world cup commentator!
- temper your schadenfreude
- who turned out the sun?
- how to be a good rideshare driver
- ⭐ pretending to work
- some of my favorite photos from 2021
- ⭐ my love-hate relationship with mechanical watches
- my cloud storage crisis
- ⭐ an ode to that "coffee friend"
- how i use a windows keyboard with a mac
- puerto rico in photos, october '22
- ⭐ some of my writing inspirations
- getting my 'first' electric toothbrush
- getting old sucks
- reflections on decluttering
- business travel is not as fun as it sounds
- pay attention to your server's name
- my favorite two slogans from '68 france
- how (not) to approach dogs
- a better way to bypass paywalls
- #english
- deleting social media doesn't make you a digital minimalist
- takeaways from blog semi-virality
- gricean maxims
- walking barefoot
- ⭐ please don't be spooky
- how i meditate
- on when i write
- on eating out alone
- a beginner's guide to fountain pens
- takeaways from visiting sf in aug '22
- follow that rabbit hole
- on traveling by amtrak
- pros and cons of using Los Angeles public transit
- on kongguksu (콩국수) and trying new things
- should i rent a car on vacation? + a rant about public transit
- lifetime warranties are (often) scams
- corporate culture discourages honesty
- don't take your Uber driver for granted
- my grilled cheese and tomato soup recipe
- ⭐ be 'big picture' eco-conscious
- some lessons from my experience with the American healthcare system
- how to denote that you've stopped reading a book on Goodreads
- no dejes que tu felicidad dependa en algo fuera de tu control
- thunderstorms, fireworks, and mass shootings
- going mousefree
- la cantidad tiene su propria calidad
- los rastros digitales de los muertos
- el anticonsumismo
- ¿conoces el lugar donde vives?
- el ciclo de vida
Undated 81
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